It is totally normal for students to feel a little lonely when they start university. The secret to feeling that you belong at a big place like UBC is to carve out a smaller place for yourself within it. Getting to know a smaller group of people or a smaller community is the key. You’ll begin to meet others and your loneliness will be overcome: one hello, one conversation and one relationship at a time.
Ways to combat loneliness and build a supportive community
1. Live in residence. It’s one of the best ways to meet people, adjust and succeed at university.
2. Hang out in the residence lounge, not alone in your room.
3. Plan meals with others.
4. If you want company, leave your door open when in your room. Others will stop and say hello.
5. Read bulletin boards and flyers around residence. See what’s going on, and go check it out. It’s fine to go by yourself.
6. Talk to a Residence Advisor about upcoming residence activities and programs you might enjoy.
7. Join a campus club or activity.
If you’re still having a hard time, talk with a Residence Advisor or the Residence Life Manager. They can’t fix the problem—but they’ll listen and try to help you find answers.